Background / History

For many years people went to bars and clubs to meet other singles. These attempts to meet other singles had varying degrees of success, not least because clubs are extremely dark and noisy places. Trying to shout above the music to people they couldn’t see never made it that easy to have a friendly chat with the hunk or gorgeous girl you fancy. This was assuming you ever got to the chatting stage, because to get to this stage people had to walk across the bar, cut through the crowds, single out the object of your affections from their friends and instantly come across as confident and sexy. No mean feat.

So along came speed dating. 20 people of a similar age group sat in a room and told to “get on with it” and speak to every single one of the opposite sex. It may only be three minutes, but if you don’t fancy them then what’s the point of even starting? You’ve filled in a scorecard for people in the past and you’ve had ones filled in for you? They want to date you, “yes”, “no” or “friend”? Yes and no are fairly obvious, they either didn’t like or they want to go on a date. “Friend” has a hidden meaning. “Friend” means that yes you’re quite likeable and funny – you’re just ugly. You must be, because if you were likeable, funny and attractive then you’d have a “yes”.

Websites

There are many websites for dating online: paid ones, free ones, adult ones, teenage ones, Christian ones to dating sites for satan worshippers. Most dating websites claim to be free but simply aren’t. Sure, if you just want to stick your profile up and go on holiday then it’s free. But if you want to actually reply to the message from the pretty girl/hunk you need to stump up the cash. Want to look at someone’s profile rather than just their photo, that would be free right? Right? Wrong! Want to see who’s been checking you out? You guessed it, many dating websites require you to cough up. But the single most important thing you can’t do if you don’t pay? You can’t send anyone any messages. You are a mute. And if you do decide to subscribe, then what’s the point? It’s not like many of the hundreds of thousands members claimed are subscribers and can actually reply to you.

The online dating experience unfortunately falls short of expectations on many dating sites, causing many people to give up and assume it’s a waste of time.

Cheeky Date is different. It’s totally free.

Tricks

Some paid dating sites use less that ethical means to make you part with your cash. Out of the blue you get a message from a gorgeous hunk or a stunning model. You want to read what they wrote and send them a message back to get the conversation going. But you can’t, not until you upgrade your membership. You stump up your cash to find out the message is a rather dull, “Hi, I checked out your profile.” You send them a message. They never reply.

General Idea

There are thousands of people out there waiting for you to chat to them, just waiting for you to send them a message. But they won’t send you a message first. Why not? Because they’re lazy, haven’t got the time or are shy. They want you to make the first move. Everybody always wants everybody else to make the first move. If you want to get anywhere in life, not just in dating, you have to take action. So send a message to whoever takes your fancy. If they don’t reply, don’t get cut up over it. They weren’t interested, so what!? There are plenty of other people who will be, mark my words. Their loss, not yours. Send a message to somebody else, whose actually probably more fun and less stuck up. Dating is a numbers game, just like sales and marketing. The more people you send messages to, the more messages you will get back in return. Just say hi and what you liked about them. It’s not rocket science. But you’ve sent them a message which is the main thing. The worst way to use a dating site is the following. You log on every night, you spend a few hours running searches and reading all the profiles, hoping that someone might send you a message. They don’t. You go to bed. The next night you log on and spend a few hours searching and reding all the profiles, hoping that someone might send you a message. They don’t. Sure you might get lucky if you have put the effort in to create a well written profile, but you’ll certainly see results much quicker if you send messages to lots of people. You get out what you put in.

If you put nothing in, you get nothing out.